The following are useful quotes, famous people or not, to ponder over.

Great Psychology Quotes and What Makes them Great

“We know what we are but not what we may be.”  Ophelia in Hamlet

“I have not failed. I have just found 10,000 things that do not work.”  Thomas Edison  1847-1931

“The brain is wider than the sky.” Emily Dickinson (1830-1886

“Great spirits have often overcome violent opposition from mediocre minds.” Albert Einstein , (1879-1955)

“We are so made, that we can only derive intense enjoyment from a contrast and only very little from a state of things.” Sigmund Freud (1856-1939)

“I am not bound to succeed, but I am bound to live up to what light I have.” Abraham Lincoln (1809-1865)

“Don’t become a mere recorder of facts, but try to penetrate the mystery of their origin.” Ivan Pavlov   (1849-1936)

“The greatest discovery of my generation is that human beings can alter their lives by altering their attitudes of mind.” William James (1842-1910)

“There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so.”  Shakespeare (Hamlet)

“Colorless green ideas sleepfuriously.” Noam Chomsky (1928- )

Education survives when what has been learnt has been forgotten.” B.F. Skinner (1904-1990)

“There is in every child at every stage a new miracle of vigorous unfolding.” Erik Erikson (1902-1994)

“Much learning does not teach understanding.”  Heraclitus (544-483 B.C)

“The disappearance of a sense of responsibility is the most far-reaching consequence of submission to authority.” Stanley Milgram (1933-1984)

“We must learn to live together as brothers or perish together as fools.” Martin Luther King Jr. (1929-1968)

“Cognitive psychology tells us that the unaided human mind is vulnerable to many fallacies and illusions because of its reliance on its memory for vivid anecdotes rather than systematic statistics.”  Steven Pinker

“The purpose of psychology is to give us a completely different idea of the things we know best.” Paul Valery

“Psychology keeps trying to vindicate human nature. History keeps undermining the effort.” Mason Cooley

“The greatest discovery of my generation is that human beings can alter their lives by altering their attitudes of mind. ” William Jame

“The happiness of of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts.” Marcus Aurelius

“Life can show up no other way than that way in which you perceive it.” Neale Donald Walsch





The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) once had several coins that he asked his wife to distribute in charity. But due to the Prophet’s illness at the time, she did not have an opportunity to give out the coins. When the Prophet learned of this, he asked for the coins, placed them in his hand, and then said: “What would God’s Prophet think if he were to meet God, who is Great and Glorious, while (still) possessing these?” – Al-Tirmidhi, Hadith 586

The Prophet also said: “Give charity without delay, for it stands in the way of calamity.” – Al-Tirmidhi, Hadith 589


The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said: “The believer’s shade on the Day of Resurrection will be his charity.” – Al-Tirmidhi, Hadith 604

The Prophet also said: “Every act of goodness is charity.” – Sahih Muslim, Hadith 496


The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said: “Save yourself from hellfire by giving even half a date-fruit in charity.” – Sahih Al-Bukhari, Volume 2, Hadith 498


“They ask you (O Muhammad) what they should spend in charity. Say: ‘Whatever you spend with a good heart, give it to parents, relatives, orphans, the helpless, and travellers in need. Whatever good you do, God is aware of it.'” – The Holy Quran, 2:215


Above there are some quotes from the Quran and Ahadeeth, all donations will go towards the running of the awareness workshops and the counselling insha’allah (if god wills).

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illnesses info

Different types of Mental illnesses:-

There are many different illnesses which affect one’s mental health. We will focus on the ones below as they were the ones which were most commonly mentioned by the participants in our research. If however, you would like further details on any of the below; or any other illnesses, please do visit the NHS website (www.nhs.uk) or contact us here.


Anxiety is the feeling of worry or fear.  Everyone, at one point in their lives, have had this feeling, whether it was for a job interview, first stay at school or just before an exam.  People who suffer from anxiety disorders have this feeling continuously and it begins to affect their daily lives.   The extent of this feeling can vary in different people; where it may be more severe in one person than others.

Some of the symptoms are listed below. You may have a few of these, or all.

  • restlessness, constantly feeling ‘on edge’
  • feeling impatient or irritable
  • easily distracted
  • loss of interest in is seeing friends/family
  • feelings of dread or worry
  • feeling tired
  • pins and needles
  • palpitations
  • muscle aches and tension
  • difficulty falling or staying asleep (insomnia)
  • sweating
  • shortness of breath
  • nauseous
  • frequent urinating
  • painful or missed periods
  • panic attacks


Delusions are having the belief regarding a matter with much conviction even though it clear to other people that they are mistaken or the belief if strange or unrealistic.  These can affect one’s behaviour and may develop gradually or suddenly.  People may interpret things differently, such as believing that a TV presenter is communicating with them though hidden messages in what is being said.

Paranoid delusions are when someone believes they are being harassed, chased, followed or would be harmed. It is often a loved one who faces these accusations.


Depression is a prolonged state of sadness and low mood, which tends to develop gradually. There many different forms of depression. Often, you would hear people say, “I feel depressed today”. This, however, isn’t the same as one day of feeling down.

Depression lies on a wide range, where some people could be severely depressed and others suffer from acute depression. Whatever the form, it is vital that help is sought. Try the short self assessment below to see if you might be suffering from depression: http://www.nhs.uk/Conditions/Depression/Pages/Symptoms.aspx

Some symptoms include:

  • continuously feeling sad or being in a low mood
  • Low self-esteem
  • feeling tearful and hopeless
  • easily irritated
  • lack of motivation at work, school or home
  • loss of interest in activities and socialising
  • feeling anxious or worried (with or without reason)
  • feeling suicidal
  • have self-harmed or have had thoughts of self harming
  • change in speech and/pr movement (usually slower than normal)
  • Loss/gain in appetite
  • Loss of (or increase in) sexual desire
  • changes to menstrual cycle
  • inability to sleep/difficulty in sleeping through the whole night

Someone may have one or many of these symptoms. It is often difficult for the person themselves to notice they have an illness. Family and friends are usually the first to notice that there is a change in behaviour. The person themselves may in fact attempt to live with those changes, as the development of the symptoms tend to be gradual.

Other types of depression

Postnatal depression is the development of the above symptoms after having a baby.

Bipolar disorder is also known as “manic depression”. This is where the person may have periods of feeling extremely low, showing the symptoms mentioned above, but then they may also show signs of mania on other days, where they display excessively high moods. These moods are not necessarily positive behaviour, such as extensive gambling, spending uncontrollably or even having multiple sexual partners.

Seasonal affective disorder (SAD) is also known as “winter depression”.  This is where the sufferer usually develops depression in the winter months.

Eating disorders

Eating disorders are shown via the abnormal relationship someone may have with food.  A person with an eating disorder may be excessively focussed on their body shape and appearance.

There are three main types of eating disorders:

  • Anorexia Nervosa
  • Bulimia
  • Binge eating

Anorexia nervosa is when someone tries to keep their weight as low as possible.  They may describe themselves as being overweight, even though evidently, they are very thin.  They may skip meals, diet excessively or exercise too often.

Bulimia is when someone binge eats (eats excessively) followed by  deliberately making themselves sick.  they may also use laxatives to get rig of the excessive food they have eaten.

Binge eating is when someone feels compelled to overeat uncontrollably.

It is often claimed that both biological and social factors can influence the development of eating disorders. Doctors sometimes the following questions to check for an eating disorder.

  • Do you ever make yourself sick because you feel uncomfortably full?
  • Do you worry you have lost control over how much you eat?
  • Have you recently lost more than one stone (six kilograms) in a three-month period?
  • Do you believe yourself to be fat when others say you are too thin?
  • Would you say that food dominates your life?

If “yes” is answered to two or more of these questions, it may be that someone has an eating disorder.

It is often difficult to recognise someone with an eating disorder, as they hide their symptoms quite well. However, the following are some symptoms:

  • Missing meals often/claiming they’ve eaten
  • Feeling fat, though they have a normal weight or are underweight
  • Repeatedly weighing themselves and looking at themselves in the mirror
  • Eating little amounts
  • Excessive calorie counting/eating very low calorific foods (such as salads)
  • Feeling uncomfortable or refusing to eat in public places, such as a restaurant
  • The use of “pro-anorexia” websites


Hallucinations are when the person hears or sees things which do not exist.  These are very real to the person who is experiencing this symptom. They can be positive, which tell the person to do good and may even praise them. But often, they are negative and are threatening or abusive.  They can arise from particular areas, such as the corner of a room or from the TV.


Schizophrenia is a mental-health condition which has a variety of symptoms. It is often described as a psychotic illness due to the difficulty  a person faces in the ability to distinguish their thoughts (due to illness) from reality.  Schizophrenia is a long-term illness which causes people to hallucinate and develop muddled thoughts due to these hallucinations. They also tend to develop delusional thoughts and beliefs which contradict clear evidence.  People with schizophrenia can be a challenge to live with, as their behaviour changes radically.

The symptoms of schizophrenia are divided into two forms, positive and negative.  Positive symptoms include hallucinations, delusions and changes in behaviour.

⇒Changes in behaviour/thoughts

People with schizophrenia develop behaviour which become difficult to understand by others. They tend to be disorganised, unpredictable and inappropriate in their language (such as randomly swearing or becoming agitated for no reason).

Some people describe their thoughts as being controlled by others, and believe their minds and bodies are being taken over, and controlled by other people or force.

Negative symptoms often develop prior to recognising someone may have more severe symptoms of schizophrenia.  These symptoms usually develop gradually, getting worse as time passes by.  The sufferer becomes more withdrawn; showing signs of lack of interest in their personal hygiene and socialising with others.

More detailed negative symptoms include:

  • Loss of interest in activities
  • Loss of sexual desire
  • Lack of concentration
  • Refusing to leave home.
  • Change in  sleeping patterns
  • Feeling uncomfortable around people

If you feel after reading the above, one category refers to you, then please get in touch with us or contact you gp immediately.




Here are good links, to read in depth of what you may have.




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Emergency Contacts:-

We aim to respond to any emails asap. As RealEyesRealise is not an emergency service, please contact one of the organisations below should you require immediate assistance. In case of an emergency/risk to one’s life – please call 999.

Open Mind Leicester City


How to refer

You may be eligible for help if you are aged 16 or over and registered with a GP practice in Leicester City. You can contact your GP who may arrange a referral to Open Mind, alternatively you can self-refer by one of the options below:

Please note that if you are suffering with ongoing suicidal feelings and attempts, self-harm or a major mental health conditions, a psychiatric referral must be sought instead via your GP. Also, where there is substance/alcohol abuse or problems with violence, other support services should be accessed. Anyone currently receiving psychiatric care must continue with their care programme and is unable to access this programme.

  • Complete an online self-referral form
  • Call us on 0116 2927010
  • Email leicesteropenmind@nottshc.nhs.uk to contact someone who can take your details and arrange an appointment for you. We offer clinics in many places across the City, please state where you would prefer to be seen.


For information on a range of topics, and help and support near you, contact Mind on 0300 123 3393 between Monday – Friday, 9am-6pm.

Muslim Youth Helpline

For a free, confidential service run by Muslims, contact 0808 808 2008. Open 6pm to Midnight (weekdays) and 12pm-Midnight (weekends).

Muslim Community Helpline

For a non-judgemental and confidential emotional support service, contact 020 8904 8193 or 020 8908 6715 Monday to Friday between 10am-1.00pm

Rethink Mental Illness

If you are living with a mental illness and feel you require support and advice, contact 0300 5000 927 between Monday – Friday, 10am-2pm.


Samaritans are a 24 hour helpline providing confidential support. Phone: 08457 90 90 90 (24-hour helpline)


Sane is a charity which can offer support every evenings (between 6-11pm) for those who are living with a mental illness. Contact them on 0845 767 8000


If you are a parent or professional seeking information on child and adolescent mental health, contact 0808 802 5544 between Monday – Friday, 9.30am-4pm.


Links & Ideas


Here are some very informative and useful links:

  1. https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/a-z-mental-health/
  2. http://www.selfhelpguides.ntw.nhs.uk/dmu/

The following are good for Counselling & help



The following are good reading material links:

  1. https://yaqeeninstitute.org/wp-content/uploads/2017/03/Islamic-Spirituality-and-Mental-Well-Being-revised.pdf
  2. file:///C:/Users/user/Downloads/NHS_Client_Self_Help_Booklet%20(1).pdf
  3. file:///C:/Users/user/Downloads/kolk1.pdf
  4. file:///C:/Users/user/Downloads/psychology-from-islamic-perspective%20(1).pdf
  5. file:///C:/Users/user/Downloads/Psychology%20from%20the%20Islamic%20Perspective.pdf
  6. https://www.researchgate.net/publication/287992566_A_Preface_to_the_Islamic_Personality_Psychology
  7. http://attachmentdisorderhealing.com/developmental-trauma/

The following are good video links, worth watching:

  1. https://youtu.be/7QWoP6jJG3k
  2. https://youtu.be/HffWFd_6bJ0
  3. https://youtu.be/PBahzNmbL-0
  4. https://youtu.be/VNNsN9IJkws
  5. https://youtu.be/m_5u8-QSh6A
  6. https://youtu.be/rVwFkcOZHJw
  7. https://youtu.be/KH3PHGjpo5Y
  8. https://youtu.be/wIh_H98pNKY
  9. https://majidalimd.me/2015/05/18/scientists-discover-mental-health-may-begin-in-the-bowel-and-gut-microbes/
  10. https://www.ted.com/talks/adam_alter_why_our_screens_make_us_less_happy/up-next



We are keen to have any ideas, from anyone who either is going through these experiences themselves or knows someone that is, as together we can make a difference.

If we know someone is facing any of the situtions, it is not about sitting back and doing our own thing, for helping is rewarding and we must remember, if we were in their shoes, would we like to be ignored?!

Togther we can challenge and fight it.

Any more ideas to add to the following, then please email us at; info@realeyesrealise.co.uk

Mental Health Awareness


Social Media (the new religion)

School Events

Religion v Culture

If you have an idea for areas to cover that we’ve missed, then don’t hold on to that thought. Please tell us, we’ll add and share with all, because remember, SHARING IS CARING!!! By you sharing your thoughts on what else effects you are aware of, you are caring for others by making them aware of help that is out there.

We also intend to work with:

Black, Minority Ethnic (BME) Communities

Victims/survivors of domestic abuse from BME Communities may experience additional barriers to disclosing abuse and seeking support. As a result, abuse may escalate. Research by the NSPCC suggests that victims from BME communities continue to live in abusive situations for longer, which negatively impacts the victim and children living in households.

Some religious and cultural communities may encourage men and women to fulfil roles specific to their gender, which may encourage rigid expectations and pressure to comply. Though some individuals may use cultural practices as an excuse to exert pressure and control, abuse is never an accepted practice.

There are some specific forms of abuse which may be perpetrated within those BME communities where honour plays a vital role. These include honour based violenceforced marriages and FGM.

The violence and abuse can be perpetrated by not only the spouse or partner but also by the extended families and the community. Family and community members may be complicit in this abuse or may wish to deal with it by themselves and not involve other agencies.

BME victims experiencing domestic violence and abuse may be reluctant or prevented from seeking help for many reasons:

  • Language barriers
  • Fear they will not be believed or understood
  • Limited access to or little knowledge of finances
  • Lack of awareness of what constitutes domestic abuse and the impact this has on their children
  • Lack of awareness of the laws governing Domestic abuse and the response they can expect from police/courts/services
  • Fear of discrimination by statutory services, such as police and social services, based upon previous experiences or beliefs
  • Fear of being sent back overseas which could cause further shame to the family’s honour
  • Fear about their children’s (mainly daughters) ability or prospect to marry
  • Fear they will become isolated from family and community bonds if they seek help/leave relationship
  • Concern that professionals may normalise abuse within their background or culture
  • Fear they may lose residency in the UK, where immigration status is an issue. See No Recourse to Public Funds.

Specialist Domestic Abuse Services are trained to understand and respond effectively to the complex range of fears and barriers victims from BME communities may experience.

Culturally specific programmes and group activities can be accessed which aim to recognise the above concerns, as well as safe and impartial language interpretation services where needed. Local Specialist Domestic Abuse and Sexual Violence Support Providers, provide leaflets in a range of community languages. This can be accessed via the UAVA Website. The following poster may be helpful for practitioners wishing to confirm the language spoken by an individual .

For more information and resources see:

Asian Women, Domestic Violence and Mental Health Toolkit





We hope that real eyes of the people, will realise the contents of what we are highlighting. Unfortunately, due to Stigma, we turn a blind eye to the symptoms, that may be present within us.

RealEyesRealise, help is available, don’t turn a blind eye, seek the help through our support and we will walk with you, to see it through.

Please go through all the information provided, if you require any form of assistance, please don’t hesitate to get in touch with us! We are on the other end, be it phone or email!




About Us

Who We Are.

RealEyesRealise is a voluntary charity for disabilities and mental health, located in Leicester that launched in 2017 with the aim to raise awareness, combat stigmas and provide, non-judgemental, confidential support to those in need. Although RealEyesRealise works predominantly with those from an Islamic faith, we do not disregard any persons of differing backgrounds. Our initial research showed many Muslims found it difficult to seek help as they felt they would not be understood by someone who did not understand their faith or culture, thus they chose to remain quiet and not seek help. We are here to change this for them and wider bme community and cater for this need.

Our Mission..

To make you realise, this is common in society, to go through something within your lifetime. We want to reduce stigma, raise awareness and provide advice, support and encouragement to all.

Whether you see it or not, we will support you and help you walk the path of help, for help will give you hope, that you will see the back of the problem, that you are facing.

Our Values…

Our core values form the foundation, beliefs and principles that lie at the heart of our organisation.

  • Islamic
    We are inspired, anchored and guided by our faith, which illuminates why we do what we do.
  • Excellence
    We continuously learn, improve and strive to be the best in everything we do.
  • Ambitious
    We are determined to go the extra mile and make a lasting difference.
  • Compassionate
    We attend to the needs of every person with sensitivity, empathy and kindness.
  • Respect
    We treat one another with dignity, honesty and understanding; valuing differences and all contributions.


It is important to want to seek help, in order to make full recovery or learn to cope with an illness. This step is never easy and many obstacles stand in the way of making this a possibility. We understand that it could be daunting to speak about your symptoms – and feeling as though you will not be understood. We know how hard it can be to try and put your experiences into words that can be understood by someone who is not from the same faith or culture. Thus we took all these circumstances into consideration and decided to offer our services via a variety of methods.

RealEyesRealise wish to help you in any way possible, which will be most beneficial to you. Therefore, we provide support via the telephone, for those who wish to seek it.

RealEyesRealise understands how frustrasting it is at times that a person with a difficulty, whatever it may be, face. Often, the thoughts of speaking to someone can act as the main barrier to getting help. Emailing is easier, as you do not need to see the person you are speaking to and do it in your own time at your luxury, you can email as and when you are ready. Further, it may be that you do not want your family or friend to listen to what you are saying. This method will allow you to seek help without this fear.

Face-to-face Counselling 
Face-to-face support provides people with a chance to explore their experiences extensively with a better understanding; working with their advisors to overcome or control their illnesses. It gives both the client and the mentor a chance to tackle situations and questions without delay. However, we understand that this method isn’t most comforting to everyone, therefore we do offer other forms of services to seek help.


Workshops & Events

We specialise in Workshops, based on information, to create awareness of syptoms that we have or everyday events, that we face and ignore it.

We also point you in the right direction, to get the help that is out there. Together we can fight the stigma, take the plunge and come out winners.

God willing, we will be providing information on many areas, some being like the following:

  • Depression
  • Self Harm
  • Anxiety
  • Suicidal Thoughts
  • Psychosis
  • Homosexuality
  • Women’s Issues
  • Appearance / Self Esteem
  • Eating Disorders
  • Schizophrenia
  • Personality Disorders
  • Pornography
  • Anger Issues
  • Jinn vs Mental Health
  • Domestic Abuse


Dates & Venue…

  1.  Sunday 22nd October 2017 – @ Darul Arqum, Leicester.             10-6pm



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